My biggest fear has always been not to be liked, wanted or to fit in with others and feel a sense of belonging.
So what do you do? You go out of your way to be recognised, liked and part of the crowd around you. You show interest in others, do as they do, share your talents and fall in with the crowd, even if it goes against your own feelings and better judgement.
You may move from crowd to crowd, town to town, country to country, to see if they recognise or like you more. You change according to others, in order to stay popular and be with the in-crowd.
But all you feel is more lost, unloved and alone and find yourself lying awake at night worrying what you’ve done wrong and what you need to do to belong and be as happy as the rest seem to be!
What our Human Experience is About…
Society has taught us to stick together, to care for another and find a general way to make everyone happy.
What our parents, teachers and leaders forgot to mention however, were the things that would make all the difference for a happy life. But then again isn’t our Human experience about discovering and remembering Who You Are?
To remember you are Unique, Sovereign and Magnificent?
All my Human experience has served me well as it’s brought me to discover how I don’t like to feel and what I don’t want to experience. This has all lead me to ponder my feelings alone at times. Feeling into the emptiness, the darkness. Crying deeply, diving into the fear, asking for help.
It was only in this depth of silent space, did I begin to feel an inner warmth, a loving presence that made me feel peaceful, loved and joyful. The more I came here, the more I was inspired to know all the answers to my many questions.
I began to understand that deep within me was a powerful force of love, of Consciousness, of God, of Divine Spirit that is not separate from me, is not separate from all life and is what connects everyone and everything together and guides everyone… if you are willing to slow down, be alone at times, tune in, feel and listen.
The Important of Paying Attention To How You Feel…
When you pay attention to how you feel rather than how everyone else feels, you allow yourself to tune into your own inner power and guidance. Which in turn allows you to remember and know when you are following your unique and sovereign path or not!
You remember, feeling good and well is your Divine guidance telling you, you are aligned with your Divine Spirit who guides you in receiving more wellness, happiness and abundance.
On the other hand, feeling bad and unwell, is your Divine guidance telling you, you are more aligned with others than yourself, which will sooner rather than later, burn out your body and mind!
IAM grateful for everything I have experienced and remembered, especially how important it is to pay attention to self. It is because of this I can look back at a full and beautiful life with my family and friends who genuinely love and care for each other. It spurs me on to overcome any Human trials, guiding me further on my Divine path, being Sovereign, unique and standing out shining my light being the change that changes the world.
My family, friends and I know that when we each serve self first, being the change and shining our light, this serves another and brings and keeps us together. We are creating new communities as I write. Our differences no longer matter, in fact we honour our uniqueness and celebrate together our freedom to live our life in all peace, love and joy.
I resonated with the following words written by Brianna Wiest this morning on social media, which actually inspired me to write this blog post. I love how we keep inspiring each other with our loving words for self.
Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change.
Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place.
This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.
That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.
The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.
The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life.
The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.
When you realise this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen.
You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It’s your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it.
Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.
©Barbara Franken… Creative Visionary & Master Creator
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