A big welcome to YOU Jacqui Malpass as my Guest on this weeks Blogger/Author Feature. IAM honoured to have you here on this platform, sharing your Magnificent presence with the world. IAM delighted to have you amongst my Divine brothers and sisters not only in the Blogging and Writing world but as a fellow Costa Woman living on the Coast of Southern Spain. A woman who dares stand up, be vulnerable and shine your amazing light out to inspire others to tell their story about who they truly are and their unique message to the world.
I first met Jacqui at our Costa Women Summer Party in Marbella 2 years ago, I have received great tips, advice and an beautiful interview from her when I launched my book back in 2015 and have enjoyed her journey as a blogger, writer and a practical motivator ever since. Jacqui is a fun loving, enthusiastic and vibrant beauty who loves to write and talk… helping others to tell their story and present themself in a book, up on stage or online. She loves her family… 3 beautiful dogs, Ferdy Dog, Marley Moo and Angel who accompany her on her walks in the Spanish Mountains and have inspired her next project… to write and publish a series of children’s books… about dogs and… . Jacqui loves the comfort of her home, drinking peppermint tea and nibbling raw chocolate. I wonder if this enhances her imagination, inspiring her to write her next blog post or chapter of a book?
Jacqui shares her feelings on…The power of Vulnerability and Compassion
I don’t know about you, but I have always hated feeling vulnerable. It used to strike me as weak and being unable to help myself. Yet as the years have passed by I have come to see that being vulnerable is powerful. People who are ready to see you, will. People who are ready to feel you, will. And you will see and feel the world in a different way. Which will open the door to greater compassion.
Brene Brown talks about the power of vulnerability, so this is nothing new. She talks about connection as an essential part of being human. To be human is also to be open to vulnerability. What we do is put up barriers to showing our vulnerability so that we are not seen, and we often feel that we are not worthy of connection.
When I think of my own vulnerability, it makes me want to cry, because I have felt unworthy of love and connection. I have believed that somewhere inside of me was something dirty, unclean and not nice. For many years, I blocked out things that happened in my childhood, things that you would not want your daughter or any female counterpart to experience. But I did, and as I woke up and became more aware, I acknowledged that there are many women who have encountered worse than me. Learning that these were lessons in the show called life helped me to deal with my stuff. These ‘things’ have helped me to become more of me if that makes any sense?
None of this stopped me making rubbish choices, and it took a sledgehammer from the Universe to finally convince me that all of my experiences are just that, experiences, lessons in my human life and part of the journey back to the light.
When I could see that the beauty was in the spaces between the experiences and that these did not define me, then I was able to share my vulnerability, because it was no longer shameful.
Why do I start with vulnerability as a lead into compassion?
I believe that to feel compassion for your fellow man you have had to have been somewhere that tested your courage. That demanded that you share and release. That you allowed yourself to be vulnerable and open up so that you can let go. That’s not to say that you have, more that for me having been through some tough times made me more compassionate.
It hasn’t been easy showing a part of me that I felt was no-one’s business, but actually, it was ok. When I say ok, for some it was, and for some, it wasn’t. Some were able to see into my soul and hold me, while others chose to use what I shared as a weapon. And that is ok too because their soul demanded that they live behind their vulnerability in this moment and maybe this lifetime. I understand that because I have become a witness to (an observer of) human behaviour and I accept that not everyone is the same.
When I was able not to be scared of baring my soul, it was if my compassionate side grew. I no longer cared if I cried in public when something that tore my heart in two presented itself. Compassion for things that meant something to me blossomed. Don’t get me wrong I can be pretty hard-nosed and dispassionate about many things, I’m not completely soft centred, but I am gentle, loving and kind and I will go out of my way to make others feel safe.
There have been many times when I have needed something, and nobody has helped me. That hurts, and I still bear the scars of being deserted when I most needed others to see my pain and vulnerability. But I understand that they do not feel the way that I do, and therefore it’s like using a hammer to crack a nut. I used to think, wait until they need something and see what happens when no one steps forward. Life doesn’t happen like that does it? Compassion doesn’t flow back and forth, it flows around and touches those that need love and support in that moment and from whoever wants and is able to supply it.
The energy of connection drives us closer, like a magnet or a moth to the light, we provide our open arms where and when they are needed. We cannot not.
As I write this, I feel vulnerable and emotional as I remember being alone and needing. I also smile because no matter what others do or don’t do, I will not stand by and not open my heart to someone I feel drawn to support. They may never give back to me. What they might do instead is remember a time when someone was kind and compassionate to them and pass that baton on.
If you are standing on the edge of vulnerability and wondering if you could or should let it pour forth, what is the worst that can happen? Now consider the best that can happen? And if nothing happened would it matter? The power of showing up as you comes from within.
The more vulnerable you are, and that’s not to put yourself in danger, it does come with a health warning, but I am sure you knew that; the more powerful you become. The more powerful you become in who you are, the more compassion you can show up for others. Or I’d like to think that you would.
Today, as you consider your life, who you are and the others around you, do you feel that you can be vulnerable with all or some of them? Do you think or feel that as you have opened your heart more that you have become more compassionate? And have you accepted that not everyone feels like you do or will do what you do when called to?. I believe that some of us are deeply compassionate and some aren’t and that for us that are, we have to take action when called.
Jacqui Malpass, MBA loves helping people to get connected to their conscious personal brand, finding the one thing that they want to share in many ways.
She has 3 key strategies to enable them to turn their knowledge, skills and experience into ‘products’ and services which enable them to build their personal brand.
Writing a book
Blogging your book
Turning your book into a course
Working intuitively she gets connected to the heart and soul of your words and together your book, blog, online course and brand are created. Typically your book will be based on your personal leadership story. Jacqui is excited by stories which share the colour of your life.
Plan your Non-Fiction Book in a Weekend By Jacqui Malpass
Jacqui published her third book… Plan your Non-Fiction Book in a Weekend in September 2014… following on from publishing her books Writing to heal and Stolen Petals. In 2015 she co-authored and published a two part book Navigate, the Leadership Journey and is ready to launch her latest book Tapping Divine Inner Wisdom (Take a sneak look).
A Book Review…
‘Having read this AND done it in practise with Jacqui herself on one of her live “Plan Your Non-Fiction Book in a Weekend” events, I thoroughly recommend it!
I have a plan, and outline and 1 and a half chapters written in just 4 days (2 days doing the plan and 2 days working on it).
Jacqui really knows her stuff and logically takes you through the steps to get your plan done – in a weekend! It really is possible with Jacqui’s guidance!
I have no hesitation in recommending this book and her live course.’ Deborah Burrow
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It’s been a pleasure reading your inspiring words you’ve written on Compassion Jacqui and thank you for sharing your imagination and unique journey through your books and blogs and going on to inspire so many others to share their story too. It is truly a pleasure to have you amongst my friends… Together co-creating a loving and peaceful world.
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